Ugh
So this weekend has sucked. I went to Rockworld on Friday night, despite really not feeling like it...I thought I'd have fun once I got there, which I did until about 1am...when I got thrown out.
At around 12, me and Paul were going into the small fourth room. (For anyone who doesn't know, there's a door, then a really narrow little corridor, then another door.) There were some people coming out, so we waited to let them go and then Paul went through. I went to follow him, but as I did this guy shoved in front of me REALLY hard, made me spill my drink and then stood in the corridor so I couldn't get through. I said "excuse me", and he sort of glared at me and just about let me through. Paul saw what happened and was kind of annoyed, but that was that.
Then about an hour later, we'd been in the main room for a while and decided to go into the fourth room again. Well as we went towards the corridor bit, this same guy came out and for some reason shoved into Paul really hard...he must have seen him so I can't think that it was an accident. I didn't see this, but as we walked away Paul gave him the finger. Which yeah, was a stupid thing to do.
We got through into the other room, and all of a sudden I turned round to see the guy coming up to Paul and asking him why he'd given him the finger. So Paul said it was because he'd shoved into both me and him, and seemed to do it on purpose without apologising. The guy got really mad, and was right in Paul's face yelling at him that he didn't do anything, so Paul was like "ok, I thought you did". The guy said that actually Paul had shoved into him, and although this wasn't true I think by this time Paul could see it wasn't a good idea to argue and he said "ok, I'm sorry". But then the guy started going "do you want to take this outside?" etc, and I was getting really worried, because honestly Paul wasn't being agressive at all but the guy was really kicking off with him. So obviously Paul said no he didn't want to go outside, and he wasn't looking for a fight, and he started to turn away. But the guy wouldn't leave it, and he just started throwing out all these horrible threats like how he was going to break Paul's jaw when he left, and I was really scared that they were actually going to get in a fight. So I touched the guy's shoulder and said "look, can you just leave us alone, he's apologised and he's not going to fight you". I don't know why I thought this would help, but it was just horrible watching it and I guess I thought he wouldn't be so aggressive towards me. I was wrong. He started yelling at me too, and getting right in my face about how "nobody gives me the finger" and how he was going to take us BOTH outside. I told him we weren't going anywhere with him. He'd been yelling from the start, but by this time I was shouting too because I was really scared and upset.
He finally left pointing at us and going "you wait there...you're going outside". So we stood there completely shaken and not knowing what to do. The guy was quite old, and although not huge he was bigger than Paul and I just didn't know what was going to happen. A few minutes later he came back with a bouncer, who told us to come into the entrance hall. By this time I was in tears and just kept saying "we're not trying to start anything, we don't want to fight with him".
When we got into the hallway, the guy didn't even speak to Paul, but immediately started laying into me again and kept calling me "mouth". He was going on about how I'd kicked off with him, and I was going to get us thrown out...so obviously I said I hadn't started ANYTHING with him, and only told him to leave us alone when he'd been threatening Paul. So he said he hadn't threatened Paul. Which was such a huge lie, and I said so. At which point he said I deserved a slap too, and I better shut my mouth or he was going to shut it for me. It was so surreal...I didn't even feel scared anymore, I just couldn't believe what was happening and what he was saying. Paul stayed really calm and was trying to explain to the bouncer what had happened, but every time he said anything the guy was just shouting and screaming all these threats and accusations at us. Then he told us to leave again.
Up until then the bouncer hadn't really said anything, so I looked at him, I guess hoping that he'd put a stop to it all. But he just nodded, and said he'd brought us out here to sort things out and we should have just apologised. I said Paul DID apologise more than once to start with, and tried to explain things once we were in the hall, but seriously it obviously wasn't working and all the guy did was threaten us, which the bouncer had JUST HEARD. But he didn't care, and said we had to leave. So we left.
I was really, really upset about it. I still am. Obviously that guy gets his kicks from intimidating people and threatening girls, and is best mates with the bouncers so they must think that's ok too. At first I felt really guilty and I regretted saying anything to him, but honestly I don't think it would have made a difference. I don't know what I should have done.
It really sucks because although the bouncer didn't say so, I really wouldn't feel like we could go back there anytime soon. It was just horrible and I feel so angry that people are allowed to get away with behaving like that.
To be honest though, it doesn't surprise me that the bouncer was the way he was. A lot of bouncers are the same way. A few months ago, Paul's friend from work was in the paper because he went on a work's night out into Manchester (Paul didn't go). They were in a bar, and he bumped into someone by accident and spilt their drink. He apologised, offered to buy him another etc (which many witnesses confirmed) and that was that - he assumed everything was fine. However, half an hour later the bouncers came up to him and told him he had to leave. They took him to the door, and let him out into the street, then shut the door. And they wouldn't let any of his friends out with him. The guy was attacked by a gang of men, beaten up really badly and needed metal plates put in his jaw. He was off work for months.
So yeah. I guess last night could have turned out worse.
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